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Goal Setting for the New Decade …. And Beyond!

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Debbie Wood Goal SettingWhat do you think about when you think about Goal Setting for the New Decade.

Are you scared?

Do you feel like you’re falling short of where you should be?

Are you just apathetic?

“One of the amazing things we have been given as humans is the unquenchable desire to have dreams of a better life, and the ability to establish goals to live out those dreams.” – Jim Rohn

Don’t we all have dreams of a better life?

What are some of your dreams right now?

  • Could you see yourself in a better house?
  • How would it feel to have all your bills paid off?
  • What about laying your head down on a beach in your vacation home?
  • Maybe you just want more time to spend with your family and more money to enjoy that time?
  • Our, would you like to donate more to your church?
  • How about going on a missions trip and not having to worry about taking vacation time?
  • Your Goal Setting for the New Decade should be radically different than it’s been in the past, because after all, this is a brand new time we’re living in and it commands new techniques if we want to make 2010 and beyond a great decade that will take care of our families for years to come.

    To refresh your memory about this series, before you start here you may want to re-read the parent post here.

    To become a Master Goalsetter (and yes, that is what we’re all striving for here), you must commit to daily action. Just like a habit takes 30 days to cement into your subconscious, you goal setting techniques take practice every day to become a habit.

    Until they are a habit, nothing will happen.

    Because the subject of goal setting is so important, and because if you’re anything like me, your interest will only be held for a short period of time on any one post on a blog, I’m going to do a series on goal setting. In this way we can break it up into bit size chunks, thereby being able to retain the information better. So, consequently, this will be a five part series, working from the inside out, to develop a foolproof plan of action for the rest of your life.

    Debbie Wood Goal SettingAt the end of this post there’s an opt in box for you to enter your information so you are able to get the homework questions (eww, did I say homework?), and some exercises to do in between sessions to help develop that goal setting muscle. It’s no different that when you first begin to work out, if you’re overweight and out of shape you don’t start out running a marathon. You take it slow and easy and you don’t hurt yourself or burn out.

    So are you ready, great, let’s get started.

    Welcome to Part 1 of Goal Setting for the New Decade and Beyond…..

    To whet your appetite, I’m going to tell you what you will be learning over the next five sessions. Some of these things may not seem to be very goal-related, but trust me, they are all necessary and when we’re done, we’ll bring everything together in one pretty package!

    We are going to learn things like:

  • How to develop your Why
  • How to figure out your purpose in life
  • How to create a dream board
  • How to create a Mind Movie (this will be the most fun part of the whole series)
  • Meditation techniques to super-charge your goal setting
  • Goal Setting for Leadership Development
  • ……. and, much more.

    OK, Let’s set some ground rules. (Don’t question them, there is a reason, trust me)

    There are four words that I’m about to tell you about have kept me from learning more “stuff” that I can ever begin to imagine. They were so much a part of my vocabulary that it felt natural to use them, even though they were death to my goals, as they will be to yours.

    I’m going to ask you, for the entire series, to take these four words out of your vocabulary. Can you guess what they are? OK, I won’t keep you in suspense any longer:


    I know, they’re just four little tiny words, how harmful can they be, right? Well, these four little seemingly harmless words will close your mind off from learning something new. These words are the hand that close the door to your learning mode.

    Let’s make a pact to not use these words until at least this series on goal setting is done. Hopefully by then you will have formed a habit to now use them, whereby you will be fully able and open to learn.

    I’ll give you a quick story before I get started.Debbie Wood Goal Setting

    I was listening to an audio today and the speaker started to tell the story of Ray Kroc and the McDonald’s brothers. How many times have you heard this story, seriously?

    My mind started to say “I already know that” and wanted to tune out the story that I felt like I heard at least 100 times already, but I remembered writing this post asking all of you to not say those words, so I cancelled it and listened.

    I bet you can guess what happened?

    You’re absolutely right, I heard the story like I’ve never heard it before and actually learned about five things that I’d never heard before.

    What I heard, that I had never heard before, was the part about the perseverance and determination of Ray Kroc. I learned about how his dream was so much bigger than that of the two gentleman who started the first little restaurant selling the now world-famous hamburgers. The McDonalds story now makes so much more sense and truly explained to me the power of persistence and believe through the mind of Ray Kroc. Had it not been for his dreams and goals, McDonalds would not be the success story it is today.

    That being said, give me your word that you won’t use those four little words for at least the next 30-60 days.

    Thanks!! Are you ready? Good, LET’S ROLL.

    Did you know there is a huge difference between a goal set and a goal achieved?

    The difference is….

    OUR WHY!!

    Before we even begin to talk about goals, why to set them and how to set them, we need to take first things first and talk about Your Why and Your Dream.

    Consider this:

    When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand.
    It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it.

    W. Clement Stone

    This is how important our Why is. It is everything to the success of achieving your goals.

    So, are you ready to figure out our Why and our purpose??

    First, I’m going to give you an exercise to do that I learned from Randy Pausch. During his last lecture he told of a tactic he used to get his students to begin to get his students creative juices flowing when they were developing their Why.

    Get a crayon. Yes, a Crayola Crayon! Go ahead, I’ll wait.

    OK excellent. You know the color crayon you picked out of the box of 52 could say a lot about you, but we’ll save that for another post !!

    Now hold the crayon in your hands and feel the wax. Smell it with your eyes closed. Doesn’t it just take you back to your childhood? When I did this I actually visualized me and my bro coloring on the floor, dreaming up all kinds of things.

    We drew dragons, trees, forests, bike rides, animals and many, many other things.

    Now think about what you wanted to be, do or have when you were a child.

    Did you want to be:

    Debbie Wood Goal Setting

  • A fireman
  • A policeman
  • A doctor or nurse
  • Perhaps a veterinarian?
  • Did you want to learn to play piano
  • How about taking care of sick animals or being a friend to the elderly
  • Whatever your dream, however far fetched, that will help you develop your Why.

    Let’s talk about your Why for a quick minute. One of the reason people don’t set goals (more on this in another post in this series), is that they don’t feel deserving. They don’t feel that they deserve the success or material possessions that will come with the goal or the why that they create for themselves.

    I’m going to challenge you to create a paradigm shift here in this way of thinking, because first of all, its stinkin’ thinkin’…… We’re all deserving and a more important questions to ask is….

    Is our dream worthy of us????

    Once you make this decision as to what your Why will be, you are going to give your all to achieve it.

    You will give up your time, your talents, and, although temporary, your sanity.

    This is important to note: Once your Why becomes a burning desire, NOTHING, and I mean Nothing will stop you from achieving it.

    So make sure it’s worthy of the time and attention you will be devoting to it.

    Does your Why pass the smell test??

    If you can’t answer with a resounding YES to each of the following questions, something is probably stinkin’ and needs to be addressed.

    Remember, your WHY has to be worthy of your time, or it’s not worth wasting your time on it.


    When you think about your why, do you get really Jazzed Up?

    And by this I don’t mean just a little excited, I mean that when you think about achieving this the little hairs on the back of your neck stand on end.

    Debbie Wood Goal SettingQUESTION NO. 2

    Will you have to crack a book, or two, or three to achieve your Why.

    Is your Why going to make you grow. Will it push you to the limits and at times make you want to scream from the rooftops that you just can’t do it, it’s just too big a task.

    Will you have to literally reach for the stars to achieve it??

    If not, well my friend, go back to the drawing board and dream BIGGER. You ain’t there quite yet.


    When you think about accomplishing your Why do you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?

    No explanation needed here, really. Do you feel good about yourself. Do you feel that you’ve accomplished something that will let you sleep better at night and face yourself in the mirror every morning with a smile.


    Will your dream contribute to making the world a better place.

    Are others involved? Who will benefit from your dream? Completely selfish Why’s that benefit you and only you will not attract the kind of help that is needed to achieve the really big goals in life.

    Everything depends on teamwork, and teamwork is just that T-E-A-M. Notice there is not “I” here. It’s all about contributing to the world and the people in it.

    In the words of the great Zig Ziglar

    “You can get everything you want if you just help enough people get what they want”


    Is your Why bigger than you are right now, and bigger than you can ever see yourself being?

    If not, once again, get out that Crayola and DREAM BIGGER. You’re not done yet.

    And finally, and most important,


    Does your Why scare the bagezzers out of you? (Is that even a word?)…..

    If you aren’t scared to pieces of failure, worthiness, not having enough support or any of those other silly little excuses that we fill our head with, what are we going to do?????

    ~~Sidebar: If you don’t know the answer to this, you haven’t been listening……

    DREAM BIGGER. You’re not done yet.

    Just keep reaching until you are to the point were you have no clue how you will accomplish this, but when you think about it you get that feeling in your stomach like you have your butterflies flying out of pattern.

    Don’t worry, soon they will be as graceful as the synchronized swimmers at the Olympics.

    Ready to get to work and develop your Why?

    Excellent! First I’d like you to watch this short video that is going to tell you how big you should dream.

    After you’re done go below and grab your journaling homework for the week. I promise it will be painless! =)

    Dream Big Dreams and Expect Great Things!

    Grab Your Homework Here


    18 Responses to “Goal Setting for the New Decade …. And Beyond!”
    1. Over the top Deb…excellent post! I know you put a great deal of thought into everything you share and it is greatly appreciated.

      I love the questions you ask connected to people’s “why”…such great, thought provoking and pointed questions. Marvelous. We really do sell ourselves short most of the time don’t we?

      Thanks so much Deb!
      .-= Bruce Backman´s last blog ..When Love is More than Enough =-.


      Debbie Reply:

      Thanks Bruce !! I appreciate you taking the time to read it and most of all your comments!


    2. Lynn Glaser says:

      Hi Debbie,

      You’ve given us a very in depth way of approaching goal setting, goals are so important so they need to be really well thought out beforehand. In the past I’ve set goals but never really thought about WHY I set them, and I think that made it harder to achieve them. Thanks for providing some excellent and workable ideas!


      .-= Lynn Glaser´s last blog ..Facebook Connections Part 2 – Keep The Conversation Flowing =-.


    3. This post has within it the power of attracting many variables that will propel your why. You also have enough info in it for 3 posts but I guess you know that. :-)

      Loved your entire heart-centered logical thinking process of coming up with the way. I wrote something this week you may want to consider adding as it brings another powerful component of how to discover your why. >>

      Outstanding content Deb, thank you for reminding us to listen before we judge.

      PS(The video wasn’t working today and it appeared to have provided a minor virus so you might want to check that ASAP.)
      .-= Kellie Frazier´s last blog ..Do You Know Your Purpose? Try This Short Exercise to See if You Know. =-.


    4. Hi Deb,

      What an excellent post and an exciting series! I work with people a lot on setting goals and you are so right about being jazzed about it. That’s what keeps us going day after day after day.

      I’m going to work on some of my dreams, and dream bigger. Until I’m scared silly again. Until it stretches me to my limits. Thanks for the push.
      .-= Debbie Stevens´s last undefined ..Response cached until Wed 17 @ 2:18 GMT (Refreshes in 8.73 Hours) =-.


    5. Eirik Ringstad says:

      Hey Debbie,

      Wow. What a wonderful and incredibly powerful post you created here!

      I LOVE the part about contribution. (One of the most powerful principles of true success).



      Debbie Reply:

      Thanks Eirik! Good to hear from you. I haven’t seen you online in a while. What’s new and exciting??


    6. Debbie,

      This is an excellent post! Most importantly, I like what how you have centered all your advice on goal setting around our “Why”. Our “Why” is what should drive us to accomplish our goals, shouldn’t it? Great advice!
      .-= Eddie Espiritu´s last blog ..How List Building Can Explode a MLM Online Business =-.


    7. Great post Debbie. Really makes you think.I couldn’t see the video.It was marked private.Thanks for sharing.


    8. Great video.I can see it now.I believe you should always DREAM bigger.Set those goals and Dreams will come true. Good job Debbie!


    9. Debbie,
      This is one of the most through pieces of information on goal setting that I have come across on-line. Thank you for sharing. I also enjoyed the video. :-)
      .-= Krista Abbott´s last blog ..Are you using the right Key Words for SEO? =-.


    10. Bill Cowan says:

      I have a page full of goals, but I need to focus on one or two and make them happen. Thanks


    11. I love Goal setting, it’s great fun. I tend to do my goals in 28 day focus chunks and focus on 1 goal, make sure I get that goal moving/complete and then move on to another one.

      Your post/ mini course looks like an excellent idea!

      You’ve done a great job here,

      Gavin Mountford


    12. Val Wilcox says:

      Love this post! You address the key element to start goal setting. Finding your why, your passion for living will excite and empower you to achieve the goals you’re going to set.

      Awesome place to start! Thanks for sharing,
      .-= Val Wilcox´s last blog ..Which Bridge in Life to Use… =-.


    13. Wow Debbie! Thank you for putting this effort into this great post! I did the Darren Hardy workshop on goals this last January and it was intense! I find the most challenging thing not to be deviating or slacking off, but keeping focus. The world of network marketing is full of new shiny things to grab our attention. The challenge for me is to keep laser focused on the activities that support my goals. Thank you for doing the work it took to create this information.
      Carolyn from TSA
      .-= Carolyn Elizabeth Blake´s last blog ..Clayton Makepeace on Paul McCartney and Success =-.


    14. Deb, this article was power packed with great info on goal setting. If people could just stay on track with their goals there is no telling how much success can be obtained.



    15. Debbie,
      I loved this! Can’t wait for the follow-up!I will look forward to seeing what your new methods are for the new decade in goal setting. It’s pretty much been a boring task… LOL! I am looking forward to it! :-) PS- I signed up for your journaling homework…
      .-= Lesly Federici´s last blog ..What’s in a Leader =-.


      Debbie Reply:

      Hey Lesly, did you get the email when you signed up. I was told it wasn’t working and I think I may have fixed it. Please let me know. Thanks!!


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